I’m becoming quite disturbed with the trend this subthread is taking. I don’t want to shut down people venting about negative experiences, but I’m extremely uncomfortable to be hosting what’s becoming a hatefest.
They might have been talking about me—I’ve got no problem armchair-diagnosing Melissa as part of examining her patterns of behavior—but I don’t think I’m being ableist or misogynistic about it. Women can be abusive; people with mental illnesses like depression or PTSD (both of which I have myself) can also be assholes. Unless saying you believe someone is a narcissist is ableist because being a narcissist means you’re a shitty person? Which sorry, it just does. That’s not ableist; that’s simply describing the symptoms.
Here’s the thing—I don’t believe we’ve been armchair-diagnosing, we’ve been comparing it to our own experience. If the new guy checks nine out of ten boxes of abusive behavior as your ex, it’s a good bet he’s abusive too. Melissa so closely follows the pattern of some unpleasant narcissists I’ve known it’s frightening.
Thank you for that. You’re right.
The-American-Peller is a wonderful example of why no one takes the Tumblr witchcraft community seriously.
Your definition of witchcraft is different than his. Big deal. He is not a reason people don’t take this community seriously. He is only repeating things that many traditional witchcraft books say. Your tradition differs. That creates the potential for exciting discussion. However, the tumblr community is so immature that it turns to flame wars and death threats rather than actually talking over ideas. That is why the community isn’t taken seriously. It cannot tolerate differing definitions of esoteric terms and requires no definition other than someone wants to call themself that. The enforcement of lack of allowance for differing opinions is more of an issue with our community’s reputation than anything!
Tumblr? Immature? You don’t say.